Hello ladies. Missed me? I know you did. I’m sorry for being away so long. I’ve been feeling a little down and the purpose of this blog is to spread positivity and Melly Downers wasn’t going to be able to do that. Today I got up and did the usual: turn on my laptop, look for The Young Turks channel on YouTube and let the videos play while I made my one and only cup of coffee of today. I finished watching their new videos and put 80s music on Pandora and began to read stuff on my Facebook newsfeed. This status caught my attention, because it said exactly what I was going to post on my next status. It was posted by a dear friend of mine. I covered up her name and profile picture.
“Summer… What is that?”
“Beach… What is that?”
I felt as if I’ve also forgotten what these things are. It’s been two years since I purchased my first vintage-inspired swimsuit and the tags are still on it. Sad, I know. But the truth is, I don’t have many friends and whenever the few I have decide to go to the beach, I can’t because of my duty of getting people drunk. I always find myself slowly becoming a depressed person during summertime and I’m sure it’s because I only stare at a computer screen, eat… And that’s about it. I never do anything fun and whenever my mood changes and I’m up to do almost anything, I never find who to do it with.
I become unhappy and my confidence starts to diminish. My breast lump scare a few months ago made me want to push through that unhappy feeling because life is too short to be in a sucky mood. So, I will now share with you the things you must do to get yourself out of that funk and in a happy place again. You’ll find most of these silly, but that’s the point. Silliness brings joy and laughter to a person’s life. I’ve done all of these in moments of sadness and I guarantee you, they work.
– Wear lingerie to bed, even if you sleep alone.
Just to feel lingerie against you skin is extremely sexy, imagine just staring at yourself in the mirror before you go to sleep. Your pillow will feel extremely lucky. If you don’t want to go all out, check out Forever21. They have gorgeous one and two piece sets! I got this one a while back for $16 and it’s not available on their site anymore, but if you truly love it, you’ll hunt it down!
The polka dots and color feel so me! And even though I got it in a medium and the thong doesn’t fit me, I still feel sexy in it! If you have my “problem” (which is not really a problem, it’s a blessing) of being pear shaped, just buy another thong separately!
– Wear sexy underwear.
It’s kinda like the first one, but the thought of walking around wearing lace undies or even geeky panties, (if the Batman or Superman logo is your thing) and people not knowing is fun! So ditch the granny panties and treat yourself! Or combine your sexy and geek side and get yourself some BunnyJump underwear.
– Date yourself.
I don’t know if it’s just me, but there’s something I find extremely sexy about a woman dining by herself. And yes, she may have been stood up, but just the fact that she ordered herself a little something just screams “I’m so confident, I’m going to treat myself like the princess I am.” So go ahead and order that margarita. If you’re afraid of people staring at you, just go to the movies. I used to do this all the time! The best part? No one will be eating out of your popcorn bag / bucket or whatever it is you get. You get to pick the movie, so take advantage of the situation and watch that chick flick you’ve secretly been dying to see. Cry during the breakup scene and laugh at the poor men dragged by their girlfriends to watch the movie with them.
– Dance. Like a fool.
Look for a fun station on Pandora and dance your socks off. I always shuffle between the 80s Music, 80s Pop, 60s, 70s & 80s hits, and Journey stations. Yes, I already know most of the songs. (You want to know what irritates me? “Turning Japanese” never pops up on any of the stations.) What the hell, Pandora? And while the annoying ad interrupts your dance fest, hydrate to continue! Or do like me, lip sync to Flo, the Progressive lady. (I must dress like her for a future Halloween!)
I hope the idea of doing some of these put a smile on your face, as it did on mine. Remember that you don’t have to feel lonely when you’re alone. Be your own best friend and you’ll look forward to “me” moments in no time.